I’ve at all times beloved profitable, however in actuality, I hate dropping greater than I like profitable! The rating on the finish of video games actually meant lots to me. A win makes the experience residence nice, we eat good, and we chortle. With a loss, we sulk, the experience stinks, and we might eat not so good meals. That in a nutshell is the lifetime of an athlete and coach.
This insatiable want to win, I not too long ago acknowledged, has left me trying on the scoreboard on the finish of the “sport” as an alternative of having fun with the journey of my life. I spotted that in my relationships, work, and play, I’m at all times trying to find the “W.” I need to win. I need to succeed. I need to do issues the best method. A few of my relationships have suffered. Possibly that is why I by no means acquired married or had kids. I used to be at all times chasing the “W.” Win. Win. Win. “In the event you ain’t first, you’re final, Ricky Bobby” (from the film Talladega Nights). What I’ve missed and never loved was the journey. If we benefit from the journey, the wins will handle themselves. There’s a lot life to reside. So many unfulfilled goals. A lot work to do within the kingdom! So many individuals to like and take care of. A lot like to obtain.
I not too long ago had brunch with a mentee who defined that she and her boyfriend had gone ring purchasing. As I used to be sharing this revelation about profitable along with her, I advised her: don’t permit that ring to disrupt your relationship. Don’t suppose that he’ll ask you to marry him within the subsequent two weeks and give attention to that greater than your relationship. The ring then turns into a distraction (the win) and also you miss out on the journey. We put the cart earlier than the horse/the top earlier than the start, and if we’re at all times fascinated about the top (the win) we by no means benefit from the full 40 minutes of the sport (life).
